We live in a world of connections. As people we are connected to each other based on our very humanity, but also in more subtle, etheric ways. Whenever we interact with anybody we form psychic connections that can leave something like an imprint on us. The imprint can have a benign or neutral effect, or it could have a positive or negative impact.
The positive imprints leave us with good feelings about someone, and usually will make us feel good about ourselves. They nurture our well-being and inspire feelings of levity, joy and love.
The negative ones do the opposite; they will leave us feeling confused, angry, or even just depleted energetically. These are the psychic vampires and they can continue to suck your energy for years, toxifying your life without you even knowing it, until and unless you learn how to manage that energy.
Types of Toxic Relationships
Unhealthy relationships are the ones that are stuck in cycles of conflict. They are characterized by blaming, constant fighting or verbal or physical abuse on the extreme end. All of this constitutes power struggling where one or both people feel their needs are not being met by the relationship.
It can be relationships of any type including:
- family relationships
- love relationships
- business or work relationships
The roots of the cause are deep and many, and usually anchored somewhere in the current lifetime of both individuals (although it’s possible that these relationships are karmic in that they are trying to overcome lifetimes of unhealthy patterns).
Sometimes you hit a wall and can go no further in changing the pattern of the relationship and removing yourself from it is enough to end the cycle and clear your psychic “space,” restoring balance to your life (assuming it was balanced previous to the relationship). This is particularly true in relationships less personal in nature, like with a boss or other business associate. But it is the closer relationships that tend to have the deeper karmic connections and thus the most profound energetic impact.
Even long after a relationship ends it can continue to keep you mired in thought patterns that perpetuate the leaking of psychic energy. It can even continue after a person’s death if they had not let go after their passing and moved on to the next realm. The connections can be visualized as cords that join two people at the chakra level, often at the navel area.
Some people gifted with the ability to see auras and energy bodies see these cords as gold or silver colored lines similar to umbilical cords.
In a healthy relationship these cords are the lifeline between two people, feeding them with a constant give-and-take of loving, supportive energy. In toxic relationships it is a conduit more akin to a vacuum that only sucks the life force from you (known by the Chinese as “chi” and by the Indian Vedic tradition as “prana”). It can interfere with every aspect of your life, causing emotional turmoil, mental cloudiness addictions; a scenario for overall psychic imbalance.
The restoration of balance can be accomplished in many ways including:
- talk therapy
- herbal therapy
But sometimes it is necessary to cut the cord between you and someone else when it continues to be a source of negativity in your life.
Ways to Cut the Cords
Severing dysfunctional psychic cords is something you can do yourself through meditation and/or powerful visualization. The important thing to realize is that these unhealthy psychic connections are often unconscious, which means that you must be willing to sever the connection. It’s helpful to know how to go into a deep meditative state and you can use any visualization technique you like, but the main thing is to see yourself either cutting the cord or pulling it loose from your own energy body. Do it as often as necessary until you feel yourself free from its gravity. And remember to trust your own intuition!
Sometimes the psychic cords are so deeply entrenched that you need help disconnecting. A trained energy healer or someone trained in shamanic techniques can help. Different traditions rely on different methods and can employ powerful rituals or implements that work on the subtle level, such as the burning of some types of plants like sage or other substances, or the use of other power objects from the natural world.
In the case of a stubborn toxic connection with someone who has crossed over to the spirit realm and is continuing to haunt your life, a true shamanic healer who has the ability to communicate with the other side may be necessary. Never doubt that it is possible to be “followed around” like this but that you can do something about it.